Have you ever thought to yourself:
“Why do I view moments of “weakness” as weakness?”
And why do we perceive imperfections as something that lessen our value compared to others?
Take a glance at everyone around you. Start with your closest circle of family and friends.
Can you name one member completely free of imperfections?
Good! I was hoping you’d say no. Because Kaitlin, who’s an amazing dancer, could have a distorted sense of self. And Nate, who’s a genius in Math, could have poor communication skills. So, when it comes down to it, perfection is unattainable and no one is perfect.
Start with yourself:
If you view your imperfections as inevitable weaknesses, you might eventually lead yourself into a trap of helplessness.
So, how about you learn to appreciate all aspects of your personality and keep a positive view on life, instead?
Give yourself a chance to embrace your imperfections. You might end up shifting your focus to the strengths in your personality, including the skills you possess. The exploration of the great strengths you uniquely posses could direct you to your full potential and abilities, and as Park, Peterson and Seligman (2004) suggest in their article, it could also make you happier!
So, isn’t it worth a shot?
1. Grab a pen and a paper and list all the strengths that you know you possess. Also, write down the ones that you’re not sure of. Here is the list I made:
2. Write beside each strength how you could make use of it to benefit yourself or others.
I am sure that on your list, you have at least one strength that you are aware of.
Point is: all of us have great qualities. It is solely your choice to be positive and happy; or negative and weak.
Learn to love yourself as a whole; not just a few parts. Embrace all the qualities that make you unique to yourself and not only the ones that you get acknowledged for by people around you. Try to come to terms with all aspects of your personality and not only pinpoint your flaws.
Do you really want to miss out on the greatness you possess as an individual?
Here, I’ll throw a question out there:
Do you love yourself?
Take a moment.
If your answer is an automatic yes, then, that’s a great sign. If you hesitate, then you need to love — as the great John Legend says — “all your perfect imperfections”.
For the full article “Positive Psychology Progress: Empirical Validation of Interventions”, click here.
For the full article “Why Strengths? The Evidence”, click here.